Stubborn body language refers to the way a person stands, sits, moves, reacts and appears to another person. Most people have heard about body language. I know a few who flip it off as nonsensical, unimportant and a waste of time. This is far from true. But even if there are doubters, checking out how you present yourself to employers, coworkers and hiring managers is worth consideration… especially in these harsh economic times. If you want to learn more about stubborn body language signals, then this article is for you. Read on…
I’m not an expert in body language, but I’ve done my research and discovered some common sense tips on body language, especially when it involves employment.
The biggest thing I read about is that most people have body habits, and these habits are stubborn. Hard to change. So, it’s probably a good idea to evaluate how you project yourself, especially when looking for a job.
Here are four tips on what people do who are interested in what is being said. This is important when you are sitting in front of a potential employer, because you want to use your body to convey that you are not only interested in the company, but you are eager to hear all about it.
1. Maintain eye contact at all times, but at least 60-75% of the time. Experts agree that a person should maintain eye contact when speaking, but moreso when listening to the other person.
2. Listening isn’t all. Use your head [literally]. Move it forward to show you are listening intently to what a hiring manager is saying. Nod you head as if to signal your complete agreement. [No need to overdo it]
3. Even when sitting in a chair, point your toes toward the job interviewer. This helps the rest of your body position.
4. Most know to smile. But don’t grin like Cheshire cat. Don’t make your smile look fake. A sincere smile is always welcome and says, “I like you and what you’re saying.” This is always a good outcome when it comes to interviewing for a new job.
How you position yourself tells and sells, or thwarts your efforts. Review these next four tips.
5. This is a well known body language that may be a bit stubborn when trying to change it. It is so well known, that if you are looking for employment, consider whether you have this habit that may be hindering you job search.
Number five on the stubborn body language list is about crossing your arms whether sitting or standing. Because this is a signal that is well known even by those who have not studied body language signs, you do not want to cross your arms. It is often perceived as defensive body language. Instead, place your hands on your lap or casually rest them on the arms of the chair that you’re sitting in. By putting your arms in an “open” position, you are able to easily make hand gestures to support what you say, as well as respond nicely to what the interviewer says. Looking open says you are receptive to anything. [Good to go]
6. Here are some real nasty habits that some people do without even being aware of it. These four beauties have been mentioned in movies as humorous. They reflect poorly on you in most social situations, but especially in a job interview. Here they are: Tapping your fingers on the desk (2) Shuffling your feet when you walk (3) Biting your fingernails; and finally (4) Toying with a pencil during the interview. [YUK!]
Perception is what body language relates. It does concern your ability to listen, as well as things such as your arm placement. But it is also about how you act. Do you project a feeling of confidence? Or do you act entitled… as if the world owes you? [Figure it out before you go on your next job interview]
7. Act confident. Hiring managers are people. Most know that applicants who are interviewing for a job are probably nervous. If you know you are qualified for the job you’re applying for, being nervous could show the hiring manager that this job is important to you [that’s why you come across as a bit nervous]. Don’t overcompensate. Don’t act as if this interview is no-big-deal. Avoid appearing happy-go-lucky like it doesn’t matter. Not good.
8. A job interview is more than your qualifications. It’s logical to assume that you’ve sent your resume and have been selected for an inperson interview because your resume meets what the company needs for the position open.
A good employee is more than capabilities. Employers look for workers who are compatible with other workers. You’ve heard it. Are you a team player? Will you be an asset to the company? If so, how? Do you show signs of being a troublemaker? After and during employment, do you feel as if the company owes you something? [Know the answers to these questions before the interview, because your body reflects your attitude]
These last two tips are questions that can’t generally be answered directly. To believe it, the interviewer often relies on body language.
9. Touching is another signal. With harassment in the workplace a volatile subject, make sure that you do not make any unnecessary touching movements. No tap on the back, arm or thigh. In fact, there is no need to touch anyone in the workplace for any reason.
10. Of course, the exception is the hand shake. This is an important social custom. It’s accepted. It’s okay to touch in this case. But even a handshake has body language rules. Usually, do not offer your hand to a woman interviewer unless she offers it first. Do not keep the hold too long. Make your handshake firm, but don’t grab on like Mafiosos [Tony Soprano] collecting a debt. Firm, quick and professional.
Reeducate any stubborn body language habits you have. Practice. Practice. Practice. Next time you go to a meeting with a hiring manager, notice if your body language tells the right story for you.